Don't Let Them Define You

Do you know what is saddest thing that could happen to you right now? Being compared to someone else negatively. For example: “You’re like the younger version of Hitler” I know I gave a bad example but it could really hurt someone. And it could affect her for the rest of her life. A simple joke or comment may turn someone else’s world upside down. What I am trying to say is comparing someone to something or someone else is a big no-no especially if you knew it could hurt him or her.

Comparing one person to the other for me means that you are defining someone’s personality. And you should not do that because we have to admit that we do not know everyone else even if you spent your whole life with them. Spending your whole life with someone else does not mean you already know him or her. No one knows anybody. Getting to know someone does not stop, it is a continuous process that is why we have a phrase “You continuously amaze me”.

I wrote about this topic today because I got compared to someone else today. And it got me really bad that I started to cry and then send messages to my friends and finally writing this article down. I really do hate being compared to someone especially  if the one who compares me to another does not even know me very well. I believed that we are all unique in all aspects whether it is about our looks, personality, the way we sleep, the way we eat a banana, the way we sang Katy Perry’s firework. We are all different. That’s why I got really hurt when this thing happened to me today. I know I might have said some few words. But I don’t think that I deserve to be compared so poorly to another.

After drying my tears, I said to myself “They are just another hurdles in your life, don’t let them stop you.” After all you alone know yourself more than anyone else.  Don’t let them define you.


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